Toddlers and “The Terrible Twos” – Understanding and Help for Parents

A number of years ago, shortly after my son was born, I was warned by various friends of mine who were also parents, about the dreaded terrible twos. Unfortunately for me, the terrible twos later became the terrible threes, fours, fives etc. but that’s the topic of another article! The terrible twos is probably best described as your toddler saying ‘no’ to most everything and throwing frequent temper tantrums.


It’s important that you as a parent realize that this is a perfectly normal and expected stage of your toddler’s development. He or she is beginning to try to establish independence and just hasn’t yet acquired the communication skills necessary. The best your two year old can manage at this point is to yell ‘no’ and maybe a little kicking and screaming thrown in to make their point.

Here are some ideas to help both you and your toddler get through the terrible twos and avoid more conflict than necessary:

• Establish routines and apply them consistently

• Limited choices give them a feeling like they are in power without allowing bad choices

• Set limits

• Don’t give in to tantrums

• Use of time-outs as a means of discipline

• Set up your house so your toddler can explore safely

Every parent can learn good parenting skills with a little guidance and practice. I will continue to add more content on this subject with future posts. Let me know what your experiences have been like!

Want To End Outbursts and Temper Tantrums For Good?

I spend a lot of time on Internet Parenting Forums and have had many a discussion with other parents regarding temper tantrums from their kids. And I mean, these parents are FRUSTRATED! We aren't talking about the occasional tantrum that every kid throws from time to time. These parents have described constant public exhibitions of screaming, hitting, kicking, biting and on and on. I can relate because I have experienced it myself. It causes stress on the whole family and can even take a toll on your marriage.

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I wanted to pass this information on to you because I know what it's like to feel completely at a loss on how to handle temper tantrums and all of the negative behaviors that go with them. It's embarassing and frustrating at the least, and it was really causing problems in  my family. Here is a fantastic resource for all parents who want to end the tantrums and get back to a healthy and happy household.

Defiant Teens - Common Sense Parenting Tips

Parenting is not easy and parenting a teenager in particular takes hard work, determination and a little know-how. I've spent a few years making lots of mistakes until I finally began to learn that there is no magic wand to parenting and there are no shortcuts. Everyone has the ability to improve their parenting skills. The following are some great common sense parenting tips for teen parenting that will not only help them mature, but help you mature as well:


• Don't sweat the small stuff. There is an old saying about choosing battles wisely. It doesn't have to be a battle. Just decide if something is worth worrying about and if it isn't, then let it go! A teenager's messy room might be cramping your style a bit but probably isn't worth a big knock-down-drag-out. A significant issue like drinking or drugs is far more worthy of addressing.

• Encourage them to bring friends home. It shows you are making an effort to meet their friends, even the ones you might not like or have concerns about. It also has a way of helping to weed out the good friends from the ones who aren't so good to be hanging around.

• Cut your teen a little slack.Your teenager is obviously growing up, at least in some sense of the word. They are trying to figure out what their identity is and gain an understanding of their place in the world. Be willing to give them this chance and allow a bit of leeway or room.

• Stay on the same page. There should be a clear understanding between parents and children as to what the rules are, and the consequences for breaking those rules. This helps to avoid one parent saying one thing, and the other parent saying something different.

• Know where your teenager is at. The older they are the more time away they should be allowed, but this should be in direct proportion to how responsible they have been with their freedom. However, they should absolutely be required to check in to let you know where they are and who they are with.

• Don't shy away from the hard discussions. There are a number of topics that you should discuss with your teenager, such as drinking, drugs, sex, pregnancy etc. and stress the consequences of bad decisions. Offer your help and support if they are in trouble or in any type of dangerous situation.

• Be a good role model. Most importantly, teenagers are learning from their parents and will be better equipped to make good sound decisions if they see by your example that you make good sound decisions.